Oh, if you could do nothing and enjoy romantic relationships forever. But this, unfortunately, or fortunately, does not happen. Because everything flows, everything changes, and in any couple, relationships are transformed. But for better or for worse - it already depends on both of you. Do not be afraid of change, just remember that no one is equally good. Any difficulties are a test for lice, including for your character .

How to understand what needs to change in a relationship

Pay attention to what gives you the most discomfort in communication. You may notice that understatement, coldness, conflicts , unwillingness to hear each other and so on annoy you. In any case, if you feel that something is wrong, that intimacy (both sexual and spiritual) is being lost between you, then it’s time to say to yourself: “stop, it’s time to figure everything out, it can’t continue like this.” And if you let everything take its course, sooner or later a gap is inevitable.

When the cause of coldness becomes obvious, start moving towards your partner. The first and most effective way to discover and understand the problem is a heart-to-heart talk. However, keep in mind that the first time the attempt may fail, due to the unwillingness of your partner to make contact. Wait patiently for a while and then repeat. Choose the moment when your partner is most relaxed and ready to hear you.

How to stay in a good relationship

Accept that romance won't always be in your relationship. But scandals alone are also not the most attractive scenario. Everything should be small. Agree, when everything is even and smooth, the taste of life becomes somehow insipid. There must be piquancy. Therefore, make sure that relationships do not stagnate in one state: stability (meaning stuck in a situation) is fading.

Do not take quarrels out of the hut. This means that it is not necessary to devote your loved ones (especially parents and children) to your conflicts. Because the more participants (and each of them involuntarily becomes one), the less the possibility of a quick exit from the protracted conflict: each will take its position and bring in a new wave of development.

Learn to accept some of your partner's shortcomings. There are no ideal people, and your husband is no exception, so take him like that. God forbid you, to re-educate your husband, so you will break even more firewood. If it doesn’t suit you, for example, that he doesn’t wipe crumbs from the table after eating, calmly, without reproach in his voice, state that he will create less work for you in the kitchen if he leaves the table clean after dinner.

In case of betrayal, a frank conversation is required. To live with a lump in the throat is to make health troubles. Perhaps he will tell you why it happened. Based on the situation, the two of you will decide whether there is a future for your relationship.

The main rule - never carry resentment , anger, despair. Remember that a lot depends on you personally. If you do not make attempts to get out of the situation, then everything can end, to put it mildly, not very positively. Consider if this is what you want.