Change is not uncommon. According to statistics, about 60 percent of husbands cheat or have cheated on their wives at least once in their lives, and even more of them had such a desire or intend to carry out their plans. Therefore, on the site for women, we will consider adultery on the part of a man, although female adultery, to be honest, also takes place.

Let's start with the fact that any woman would like to keep her husband near her. But, unfortunately, the bonds of marriage do not guarantee that the beloved will pray day and night and look only at the one and only, that is, at you. Impermanence is one of the characteristic features of a man. But does this mean that when you get married, you should immediately fear for your other half? It seems that in the arsenal of any woman there are many methods that allow you to keep interest in your own person. First of all, do not forget that you are a woman, and that says a lot. You can be either a bitch, or a priestess of love, or a romantic “Alyonushka” - any image is within your power, which means that diversity is guaranteed.

However, what to talk about the possibilities, maybe at this moment you are tormented by doubts, suspicions and heartache because of the lies that have been revealed. And you already understand that there is an abyss between you, and you want to maintain a relationship, but your hurt pride says something else. Breaking up a relationship is the first thought that comes to mind most of the time when you become aware of His betrayal. Surging emotions do not allow you to soberly assess the situation, you want to cry, self-pity does not allow you to distract from obsessive thoughts for a minute. Are you constantly trying to understand: why did this happen to you? Why is the other better? So what's now? How to live on?

Don't jump to conclusions.
First of all, don't lash out. Yes it hurts, yes it hurts. I want to cry - cry, do not hold a grudge in yourself. But do not make a decision on emotions, most likely, it will turn out to be wrong. Try to look at the situation from a different perspective. Husband cheated on you, but is it just you? He cheats on his mistress with you, and in general: other women like him - this is already a big plus (you don’t want to live with a worthless squishy, ​​sucker and bungler). Look around you, how many unworthy of you walk the streets. Do you need them? In addition, yours has at least one mistress (and then according to your assumptions), while others may even have more than one object of hobbies. So your missus did not stand out much from the general row. After all, he is an ordinary man who is interested in women (well, not men).

Now analyze where you got the information about the change? Did you catch him red-handed? If not, then everything else is just guesswork and speculation. After all, he himself did not tell you about this, which means that he values ​​\u200b\u200byour relationship. Deception helps him keep in touch with you. This means that he still loves you and is ready to live with you further.

Try to understand why he got another woman. Is it because the atmosphere at home is unbearable. Maybe you “saw” him all day long, and that other one only whispers kind words in his ear, cooks deliciously and dresses up only for him alone. And from your relationship with him, novelty and diversity are completely gone. Routine, you know, is also boring. Especially if a man has no hobbies or activities, such as fishing or football. This is true? Then you still have a chance to change something.

Do not make scenes of jealousy, they will only aggravate the already tense atmosphere and may even push the relationship to a break. Of course, a spiritual wound will not heal quickly, and do not demand momentary forgiveness from yourself. But over time, resentment and pain will pass, and in most cases everything returns to normal. Be patient and you will be rewarded.

To distract yourself, focus on something else. For example, do what you love, children, and heavy thoughts will leave you alone for a while. If the husband did not plan to leave you, then most likely he will remain in the family. But if an emotional connection arose between him and his mistress, then he would be drawn there again and again. Although at the same time, he will doubt that he will be happy when creating a new family. After all, the new is always the unknown.

So be wiser, do not forget the simple truth: everything passes. His craving for that woman will also pass. Over time, all feelings will dull, and he will want peace and assurance that here, at home, they are always waiting for him. Then do you need to change something, and so everything is fine.