Resentment is the same emotion that a person experiences many. But if the offense is hidden, not forgiven, then it can be harmful to health. In general, any negative emotions “stuck” in your mind carry the energy of destruction. No wonder they say: "they carry water on angry people."

How then to be, because life is full of different emotional colors. So troubles and conflicts happen in family life, why should we be afraid of them now like fire, try to avoid them? Perhaps the latter makes sense: it is possible to find a compromise, at least listen to the opinion of the other and express your own, as they say, a bad peace is better than a good quarrel. But high-pitched conversations do happen.

breakdowns

In moments of breakdown, it is very important to live the emotion and let it go. First of all, it is important for your health, both external and internal. But what about resentment? It is difficult to part with her as if by a wave of a magic wand. Yes, and you don't need it. Everything is natural: a person has offended you, perhaps harmed you, you suffer. At this moment, do not force yourself to forget everything instantly, even if you try to do it, it will not work. You will only drive the emotion further, to the subconscious level. It is better to leave everything as it is for now, hoping that time will put everything in its place.

To understand and to forgive

Often the offender does not care about your offense. He expressed everything that he thought and forgot, he lives on without remembering this incident. And only you feel discomfort. In this situation, it is much more important for you to understand why he behaved this way, and why you reacted to it this way. When you see that the person who offended you is also not a minion of fate, maybe even a victim of an oppressive attitude (in childhood, for example), everything will fall into place. This behavior is typical for him, because he has been used to taking a defensive position throughout life. You, on the other hand, have "weak points" that make you vulnerable. And after all, they also appeared not by chance: as a result of some life experience or attitudes coming from childhood.

Try to absorb the details of the situation as much as possible and draw conclusions. This will help you let go of your emotions. But in no case do not force yourself. Gradually you will cope with this state. Always keep in mind that there are living people around you and they are all "sinners" in a certain sense. Therefore, we must be a little lenient in relation to what is happening. Besides, any situation is given to you for something. Apparently, you need to overcome some difficulties, without which, as you know, there is no progress.

As for the question: is it worth it to continue to maintain contact with the offender? It is impossible to say for sure. If it was a random person, then it is unreasonable to consciously continue relations with him, you see. But since we are talking about the family and specifically about a loved one, then a heart-to-heart talk here will be better than a truce in quotation marks. Then the most important thing will remain behind the scenes and will torment some of you to a greater extent. Say out loud everything you disagree with. Your heart will feel lighter. Yes, and he will understand you. Let not immediately. But it's still better than a "cold war" in retaliation.