Conflicts happen in every family. Even those spouses who have lived together for many years admit that they have had family disagreements. The fact that people are offended by each other, have claims, want “justice” is normal. Any point of view has the right to exist, even if its owner is deeply mistaken. In the end, everyone is fallible because people are just people. By the way, if you remember this, it is easier to understand and forgive another person. Probably, his wrongness is due to false ideas, from which no one is immune, just like you.

Causes

Why do conflicts arise? First of all, because everyone has their own vision of a particular situation. Everyone thinks that his truth is the most truthful truth in the world. But few people think that “truth” is a subjective thing. There is no real truth. But any person determines for himself the criteria of his personal "truth", based on personal experience. Outside influences also play an important role. Well, how else. A wife, for example, looks at her girlfriend, watches her family life, and one day betrays her husband that “Svetka’s husband recently made repairs in the house: he changed the parquet and the tiles in the bathroom, but you won’t wait for a good deed ...” Well Or something like that.

Comparison

In general, women tend to compare and then draw conclusions, unfortunately, not in favor of their own man. Few of these wives are trying to highlight the dignity of their missus against the background of the husband of the same friend. It always seems that others are better. Remember that everyone has their own merits. Your spouse is no exception in this regard. He certainly has great qualities. Always remember them when you want to compare him with someone else.

Small comparisons start big conflicts. Of course, other arguments can serve as a reason, for example, treason . But before sorting things out, proving your case, try to stop for a second. Emotions are not the best option to accompany such conversations. Under their influence, a person can say a lot of things, and then regret. But, as you know, the word is not a sparrow, it will fly out - you won’t catch it. Therefore, before breaking firewood, use simple tips, just in case, so that later you don’t regret what you can’t fix.

What to do if a conflict is brewing

1. Know the place and time to sort things out. Do not start buzzing in the hallway when the husband, having come home from work, has not yet had time to take off his shoes. Perhaps he has already taken part in a conflict at work today, and your claims will simply overflow the cup, followed by irreparable actions. When a person is in the grip of emotions, he cannot behave adequately. 2. Control your emotions too. If you feel that the conversation has not yet begun, and you are already “boiling”, it is better to wait it out. Let yourself cool down. You can break firewood very quickly, how to establish contact later - this is a good question. 3. Choose a place and time. Don't take unpleasant conversations into the bedroom. Negative energy will not have the best effect on your well-being. It is better to have a heart-to-heart talk in neutral territory, for example, in the living room. 4. Do not swear in front of children. Children react very painfully to quarrels of their parents. Since mother and father are equally important to them, they cannot take the side of one of them and will worry in any case. Even if one person is specifically wrong, the child will not want that parent to leave the family. 5. If you are already planning such a conversation, clearly define what does not suit you. In a word, you must clearly understand the subject of the conversation and your goal. If communication turns into mutual reproaches, then most likely you will not solve anything with this method, but only aggravate the situation. And in the end, you will end up in a dead end. 6. If you don’t have enough grounds, but only suspicions, think again about whether it is worth turning your idea of ​​a showdown into a grandiose scandal. It is never too late to return to the conversation if there are serious arguments in reserve. 7. When communicating, avoid routine phrases: “You always…”, “You never…” and other phrases that only program your personal perception of the situation and put pressure on your husband. Regular use of such turns can provoke a desire to escape even in

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. 8. Do not forget that your spouse is not a stranger to you. And remember: hurting a person is easy, regaining his trust and favor is difficult. So what do you choose for yourself?