Mistakes of newlyweds

A beautiful wedding does not mean that the newly-made spouses will have an equally beautiful life. Rather, on the contrary, tomorrow comes a bitter hangover, followed by a series of disappointments. Why is family life so bitter at first, is it not because they so often shouted “bitterly” at the wedding?

Often, newlyweds, unless of course they think about their future life together, draw the future with their “air dreams” . In other words, everyone imagines family life in their own way, and without thinking that the second picture may not coincide and even be radically opposite.

Indeed, in the candy-bouquet period, behavior is consciously slightly (and sometimes significantly) corrected for the better in order to please the beloved or beloved. However, sooner or later, wearing a full-dress mask becomes unbearable, and slowly everyone begins to show their own, maybe not the best features. This is where disappointment in a partner comes in. After all, before the wedding, He was always ironed, pomaded and smiling. And she seemed like a queen. And now it turns out that my mother worked hard on the image of her future husband: she fed, washed, dressed ... And naturally, he hopes that instead of his mother, his wife will now do all this. And the wife thought that he would be the breadwinner in the family, just like her father.

As a result, both prefer to scatter in a good way, in order to throw off a suddenly piled heap of problems.

Moreover, during the grinding period, everyone’s self-esteem is aggravated, that is, their native Ego does not allow them to come to terms with the blatant injustice towards their beloved (or beloved). And all because young people (thinking each for themselves) assume that they deserve more respect, attention to their own person, love. And they begin to measure feelings like: “You don’t love me at all, so I do this and that for you, and what do I get in return?” And everyone expects to get exactly what they really wanted to get: coffee in bed (exaggerated), to wear on their hands (or be wearable), fashionable things, as well as new repairs, a car, a garage ... the list goes on.

Bachelor habits

The situation is also aggravated by bachelor habits: for some reason, even after the wedding, he continues to go to football with friends, drink beer on Fridays, and go to the bathhouse. And she consults with her friend in everything, likes to eat in a restaurant and strives to spend the entire family budget on a new fashionable outfit.

In general, one clings to the other. As a result, it is impossible to have either one or the other. Because of what, complete disappointment and, as a result, the collapse of relations. Instead of listening to each other, understanding the true motives of actions, and finally, just talking heart to heart, everyone begins to “pull the blanket” in their direction, to impose a personal point of view, as the only correct one. What to expect from such a position? As long as selfishness flourishes between the two halves of the same family, there can be no talk of mutual understanding and support. Although any family (in most cases) begins with small disagreements, but whether it will continue is a big question. And it depends only on two people who created this union.