If the jealousy of the husband strains

You don't have to look far for stories with jealous husbands. Almost every woman in the environment has a friend who periodically complains about how jealous her husband is. Yes, and it’s impossible to hide it, because it’s hard not to notice how she daily reports to her husband on the phone: where she will go and for what reason she will be late. And if in the evening he is going to visit a friend, this is generally a whole problem, because a husband obsessed with thoughts of betrayal will definitely ask to pick her up right at the meeting place.

It is naive to believe that pathological jealousy, perhaps, will somehow pass by itself. And to distinguish it from the usual attack of jealousy is not so difficult. If a person has what is called a "point" in the brain, then he becomes obsessed with this without any reason or hint. For this reason, there are frequent conflicts in the family. And all because in any gesture of his wife, which is not in his field of vision, he sees a possible betrayal. Sometimes, after several years, a woman realizes that her husband is "sick", just fixated on his suspicions. Some wives continue to live under such oppression all their lives. Adapt.

The most interesting thing is that they often have a feeling of insecurity as a reaction to unfounded suspicions and persecution of their husband. They begin to believe that if they leave their husband, they will not be able to arrange their personal lives, that no man will look in their direction, although at one time they were quite sociable girls and liked the guys. Some are horrified at the thought of their insufficient material well-being in the event of a divorce. Others try to justify the husband, putting in contrast to the named shortcoming his positive qualities, as a rule, such husbands are quite economic. And someone decides to compensate for the moral side, so to speak, to assert themselves, due to real betrayal, adhering to the opinion: “I shouldn’t have to endure all this every day. Now at least we will be in the calculation. ”

At times, the spouse's jealousy, his constant surveillance and suspicions can bring the other half to the deepest depression. In addition, a woman who is emotionally exhausted ages faster than her peers.

What Causes Husband's Jealousy

The reasons can be very different. It is not uncommon for jealous people, committing adultery themselves, to project such behavior onto their spouse. They believe she might behave in a similar way. Introducing frank scenes, they "wind up" themselves.

An alternative option may be hidden fears, such as: “suddenly she finds younger, suddenly she likes sex with another, suddenly she finds a rich man ...” That is, here we are already talking about the spouse’s internal insecurity, that he has complexes about his male solvency . The question of self-love is very important here. Perhaps the spouse had a couple of connections on the side and not very successfully, in the sense that the sex was not so bright. After that, he either gets hung up on the idea that he doesn’t work out with other women, that is, he is not a super hero-lover, and if his wife also finds someone, then he will be left alone. Or thoughts will go to another plane: probably, for his wife, he is not so good in bed, then she, if she has a choice, will go to another.

I must say that you should not sort things out with your husband in a fit of jealousy, you should not go “on the rampage” at these moments, otherwise there is a risk that, under emotional influence, it will come to assault. Although this may happen. It is hardly worth to endure further if the situation has gone so far. Because under the influence of emotions (even if they are not justified), a person can do something irreparable, which he will later regret and repent. Since he has become a hostage of his own obsessive thoughts, he does not control himself, so there can be no question of any guarantee of security.

Of course, dreaming that the husband will change or agree to undergo treatment is rather a utopia. No one wants to recognize himself as a slave of his own emotions, which arise without any control from the mind, that is, they literally acquire the features of mania. Therefore, there is already envy from the spouse, whether she wants to continue to remain a victim of the sick imagination of such a person. In the end, everyone is free to make vital decisions on their own.