When the situation in the family is brought to an extreme point, that is, to a divorce, much in overcoming the crisis depends on the woman, on how she behaves. The fact is that men are more often not ready to take responsibility for building relationships, let alone file for divorce. Rather, they let everything take its course: they automatically visit your common house in order to sleep, eat and change clothes - that's all. Relations between spouses at such moments are heated to the limit.
In such a case, a woman wants to call her husband for a frank conversation, but he either ignores her, or the conversation turns into a scandal. But the worst thing is when the husband still decides to leave the family. How then to keep him, how not to bring the matter to a divorce .
How to keep your husband
First, you need to understand how the cooling period began. the lover is to blame , then you must face the truth and admit that her appearance is partly provoked by your behavior. A man goes to the side for various reasons, either he was not interested in you, or the psychological atmosphere in the house is simply unbearable, or the house has ceased to be a cozy nest where you used to chirp like birds.
Second, try to look at the situation from the other side. Before demanding correct behavior from him, it is necessary to eliminate external stimuli, or return pleasant moments. For example, remember what hobbies and common interests you had in the first years of your life together, what you liked to do the most. Maybe sex , which has been happening less and less between you lately. Maybe they liked to go to the cinema and theaters, and some even went on hikes. You need to catch again that wave of adrenaline that made your life brighter.
Thirdly, try to still talk heart to heart (only without complaints and reproaches on your part). Calm revelations will help you understand when you allowed an unforgivable separation from each other. Sometimes such communication brings good results. After all, if you lived together, it means that before something united you, something supported the light. But at some point, negative emotions became more. Perhaps each has ceased to respect the interests or even hobbies of the other. Well, if both see their role in the loss of mutual respect.
Fourth, evaluate everything you have to lose in the event of a divorce. Maybe lose financial support, communication with your mutual friends, in the end, some part of the soul will become impoverished, will remain an empty void. Understanding, realizing what you can lose in the event of a breakup , can push you into new thoughts and ideas about how to build relationships.
Don't get hung up
Very often, obsessing over her claims to the second half, a woman does not think about how she will live without her husband. But when she definitely decided to save the marriage, she has ideas about building mutual understanding, because no one else knows the character traits of a spouse better than you yourself. However, it is more logical to start with yourself, by improving your image, by working on your inner state, which should always be the same as if you were 17 years old.
And finally, as soon as the reasons for the tension in the relationship become obvious to you (for example, you see that the conversation between you is based solely on mutual reproaches), find a replacement with a plus sign and start implementing it. There will be positive changes if you start working in this direction. Remember, water does not flow under a lying stone.
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