None of the beautiful half of humanity dreams of the status of a single mother, but there are times when women decide to take such a step, or they have no choice but to get this status.

Officially, a single mother is considered a woman who gives birth and raises a child without a father ( civil marriage is not mentioned here, since the father has the right and can recognize the child, even without being officially married). Accordingly, in the child's birth certificate in the column "father" there is an entry from the words and at the request of the mother herself, or a dash indicating the father's refusal to acknowledge the fact of paternity. This means that the person who became a participant in the conception of a new life did not want to officially confirm the fact of his own involvement and share the responsibility for raising the child, or this person passed away before the baby was born.

Do not confuse this situation with cases where a woman divorces her husband. Of course, in essence, and in this situation, the mother remains alone, but the father is officially approved and registered in all documents. Therefore, the mother has the right to collect alimony from him, which will be his contribution to the maintenance of his child (by the way, registered in the passport).

In cases where a woman, being a single mother, marries, but at the same time the same entry remains in the child’s documents in the “father” column, then the status (in relation to the child or children born without a father) does not change, and the prescribed benefits remain .

The Other Side of the Medal

Official confirmation of the situation is one thing. But how many more difficulties are faced by a single mother. It is often even more difficult for a woman with a child to find a person with whom she could connect her life than for a childless lady. Not every man wants to take responsibility for raising other people's children. Maybe he is afraid to give birth to his own, and even more so to nurture strangers.

So it turns out that a woman closes in her problems. Often, all her diversity in life comes down to home and work. It is clear that children become everything for her, and she gives all her strength and attention to them. And, unfortunately, not always right in such cases. Life goes on and you have to take everything from it. While young, you need to have time to find your happiness. If you do not strive to arrange your personal life, it will not improve by itself.

By the way, excessive guardianship and attention to children do not allow them to grow up fully. Of course, on the one hand, it is wrong to accuse a single mother of excessive care for a child or children. On the other hand, responsibility for one's actions has never harmed anyone. In the end, someday the child will grow up and live on his own (if he does not get used to being in the care of his mother). But how can he arrange his life if he is used to the fact that his mother is here, nearby, to help, feed him.

So I would like to wish women who have become single mothers that they do not give up on themselves ahead of time, do not consider themselves a victim of circumstances (in general, there are different situations in life, and if you look back, you can see that there are people who still worse). You can always look at the situation from the other side. If such a test has fallen to your lot, it means that due to it you will become stronger, and you will need this hardening for further personal development, maybe you will open your own business. Any difficulties exist so that a person, having passed them, becomes even stronger. Philosophy is philosophy, and there is a grain of truth in everything.