Each person is a whole universe. His inner world can be so incomprehensible that it is sometimes annoying. It is often difficult to find a common language with people, because they think out of sync with us. But nevertheless, we do not live in an isolated world, but in a society. Each of us every day has to resolve issues with colleagues of different status, friends, officials and other representatives of our multi-layered population. For successful coexistence in the world, you need to be able to find an approach to everyone and everything.

However, it is not at all easy to force yourself to fall in love with some representatives with the proud name “Man”. What can I say, sometimes at the mere thought of an upcoming meeting with a sycophant, a miser or just a scoundrel, goosebumps run through the body and stress is already on the way. And what to do - still have to. How to set yourself up in order to get a productive result from communicating with such a person, if contact cannot be avoided.

Premature conclusions can be misleading

Try to put yourself in the other person's shoes. If you know that boorish behavior is not characteristic of this person, then the appearance of such behavior may be due to troubles in his personal life, exorbitant demands of his superiors, and other possible factors. Let him cool down before getting into arguments and taking the relationship to the breaking point.

Difficult childhood

Rigid upbringing of a child can be imprinted on his character and fate. So when you meet a person who constantly lashes out at others, they may have been pressured as a child and are now taking it out on everyone else. Remember: when aggression comes forward, a defenseless creature hides behind it, for which the best way to protect is an attack.

Your eyes will reveal the secret

Look into the eyes of a person, imagine him as a child, and you will see that he is not so scary, he just put on an armor of seriousness, rigidity, in general, he hid behind an imaginary image. In a conversation with him, refer to the child who sits in his soul. You will see, it will be easier for you to agree.

When everyone is annoying

It also happens: it seems to you that everyone around is abnormal. Well, this is true, but normal people do not exist at all. After all, what does normal mean, that is, corresponding to some kind of norm. And how can one scratch everyone with the same brush, if everyone has their own parents (who are not chosen), their friends, their problems, one is slow, the other is choleric. In a word, there are no two people who have everything the same in life. Therefore, you just need to understand that people are different.

Every person has good qualities

Find positive qualities, everyone has them. And, communicating with him, focus on these qualities. Then it will not seem to you that this person is a set of continuous errors of nature.

What you see in others - that is, in you

By the way, this has long been proven: what irritates you most in others - that is, in yourself, is simply in your own eye, as they say, and you don’t notice the beam. But it is so. If you are annoyed in others, for example, by the style of clothing, look at yourself. Is it because you are trying to buy something new that you are not satisfied with everything old. If you are annoyed by gossips, then is it not because they are discussing you, but you yourself, of course, have never discussed any of your friends in the presence of another.

The image of another person is a product of the imagination

The fact is that you see a person the way you feel comfortable seeing him (again, due to your life experience, your character). For example, you meet a former classmate. He is modestly dressed, faded look, does not look very good. Your impression: “I haven’t seen him for 100 years and could not see him for the same amount of time. A man has fallen below the plinth ... "- But when he suddenly tells you that yesterday there was a fire in his home, you suddenly begin to feel sorry for the poor fellow, offer him your help. In general, when you see a shell, your mind paints a picture based on the facts you know. But when the details become known, you change your mind.

Therefore, do not believe your eyes, trust your heart. There are no perfect people, everyone has their shortcomings. And if, due to circumstances, you have to communicate with unpleasant people, find something positive in them, then it will be much easier for you to contact and find a common language with them. And love yourself already , because any situation receives your assessment based on your own conclusions. No one can make you unhappy if you yourself do not allow it to be.