How to break up with a lover

No matter how family morality is promoted, there were, are and will be connections on the side. But here's the thing, before starting such a relationship, few people think about what the future holds for them, and what it all will lead to. Many women have a lover, as they say, for the soul. Few people will say that she has a connection with a man on the side solely because of money, they say, her husband earns little, so she has to “milk” her lover. More often, just the opposite happens. It seems that the husband is satisfied with everything, but sex with a lover is beyond words.

However, as many later understand, it is impossible to lead such a double life. Being torn into two fronts is painful. As soon as it becomes clear that something needs to be done, that it is impossible to live like this any longer, this is where the most difficult thing begins, because it is not so easy to give up pleasure, but there is no strength to continue like this either. The question arises, how to get rid of attachment, how to break off relationships. Often the process is painful and painful.

In fact, everything is understandable, any relationship that is based on sex (and it seems to many that on love) is a common addiction. Added to this dependence is the need for ongoing support, additional funding, and so on. But at one fine moment you realize that such a life leads nowhere: energy flows away, and what do you get in return? Only more dependence and through this suffering. Therefore, if you have already realized that you can’t continue to live like this, this is the first step towards breaking the relationship.

Ways of parting

Now it's important to find an excuse to break up. Here, as they say, each has its own methodology. Someone leaves in English, that is, without saying a word, just disappears from sight and that's it. If the psychotype of your lover allows you to take such a step, then this is even for the better. “Out of sight, out of heart” is the best way. The more you cling to these relationships, the harder it will be to break them. And when immediately and for sure - there are more chances to forget, the main thing is not to give yourself slack, not to drag out the test. To do this, it is better to switch your attention to another direction: finally, take care of your children, new projects, or other things that you did not have enough time for because of this relationship.

If your lover is the type of impulsive person, perhaps you should prepare him for the fact that you are going to part with him. Think about what arguments will help to understand the situation. In general, it’s better not to start relationships with nervous natures, so that later you don’t curse the day and hour when you gave the green light to intimacy with such a person.

Well, the last. It is always worth remembering that there is family happiness when both spouses live as a family, when there are common interests and problems, and when there is intimacy that satisfies both partners. Relationships, of course, are not the only factor that keeps the relationship between husband and wife , however, if it is not there, the emotional connection between the spouses is lost (which is very important). Therefore, you should consider whether it is worth breaking family ties for the sake of good sex on the side.