How not to be an old maid

Who is an "old maid" and why are young girls today afraid of being called old maids? According to a long-existing definition, an old maid was called that lady who, until her old age, remained to live in her parents' house as a girl. In other words, a "virgin by vocation" is an old maid.

True, today this concept has a slightly different meaning. An old maid is increasingly referred to as one who remains an unmarried woman until adulthood. No one wants to be left alone by the time the Balzac age comes. Therefore, girls are in such a hurry to turn their boyfriend into a legal spouse, or at least live with him in a civil marriage . So at least it will be clear that the girl is not deprived of male attention. Even if it doesn’t work out later, the status of an “old maid” will still remain on the sidelines.

Where do old maids come from

Much depends on education. If a mother at one time was very disappointed in men, then she could pass on the program of hatred to her daughters. Moreover, even with very little experience in communicating with men, the daughter (or daughters) will increasingly become convinced that only evil can be expected from men, well, or some kind of meanness.

Firstly, the very idea of ​​a future life with her husband will excite the imagination of a young girl with unpleasant scenes about how he walks, about how he will have to wash his shirts and socks, from which he sweats. And, worst of all, he can deceive even before the registry office, that is, literally “knock up”, and then quit. That's what scares the future "old maids" at the very beginning of the path.

Secondly, an impressionable person can get a negative idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthe close relationship between a man and a woman by looking at her girlfriends. At first, she is simply shocked by how ugly the situation is with betrayals , or the selfishness of young people. And then he just gets excited, watching the rest of his friends and predicting how unsuccessfully their life will turn out in the future. And, what is most sad, the anticipation of such circumstances, and then their actual confirmation, delights the "foreteller": how far-sighted she turned out to be.

Who has a chance to be an old maid

Oddly enough, among careerists who devote all their free time to teaching different sciences, languages , and put career at the forefront. And then, when life is streamlined, somehow I don’t want to waste time looking for personal happiness , because all life is subordinated to the working order. And, it seems, you need to think about the family , but there is no such place where you could cross paths with men, and, if you don’t seduce one of them, then at least make friends .

Another type of potential "old maids" is a sort of homely prudes. It seems that they are not stupid, they have an affinity for interesting creative work , but they are too shy, indecisive, afraid to make a mistake or notorious due to obsession with some of their shortcomings . For such girls, in order not to stay too long in the girls, it is important to communicate not only with young people, but also with friends who have boyfriends. Visiting public places will also be beneficial. It would also be good to contact a psychologist in time and work out your complexes. In the end, it is much more important to arrange a personal life than to modestly contemplate how it happens with others, albeit not very successfully.

We conclude: the “old maid” is still an internal diagnosis or, if you like, a sentence that the girl unconsciously passes on to herself. Therefore, in order not to take the situation to extremes, it is better to enter into a relationship and make a mistake, but to gain valuable experience that will help you rethink everything that happens around you and find the way to your female happiness, which, as you know, consists in simple words “was would be cute near.