Crises in family life happen in every family, only they come out of them in different ways. Someone finds the strength to overcome these difficult periods, while others, on the contrary, “break down” and get divorced. Well, that's what life is for, so that we constantly overcome obstacles. As they say, God sends a person those tests with which he can cope. But whether he wants to, whether he finds strength in himself is already an individual factor.

Where do marital crises come from?

These are just normal stages in the formation of a new version of the relationship between two people, that is, a kind of test of strength. Everything in the world flows and changes, so relationships undergo changes. Transformation is inevitable. a divorce or a shake-up will surely follow Not every family can withstand such trials, which means that the husband and wife did not value and protect their little family world from adversity so much as to remain hope and support for each other.

Major crisis periods

The first year of family life in itself is a test. Newlyweds make mistakes , and it's okay if they learn to recognize and admit their mistakes. Family ties are a certain responsibility. There is a place not only for entertainment and pleasures, but also for joint worries, after all, someone has to do the laundry, wash the dishes, cook dinner. The young wife is now concerned not with what to wear on a date with a man , because this man comes home every day, but with what to feed this very man.

There is a difference

Feel the difference: it's not as romantic as it used to be. And also, perhaps, she believes that it is He who should cook dinner: "I'm not a cook, or you were looking for a housekeeper for yourself .." As they say, wider and further, differences of opinion are growing. And now it doesn’t matter how it all started, it’s important for her that her point of view wins, it seems to him that he is the boss in the house.

But there is one big plus in the fact that at a young age (19-23 years old) there is still the ability for each of them to quickly adapt and get used to new conditions. However, the older a person is, the more he becomes stronger in his positions, and the less he is ready to give in to someone else's opinion. Well, very principled ones can not stand even a year of living together. This means that they still have to pacify their pride, their pride.

Crises of family life

3-5th year of family life . What happens during this period? During this time, as a rule, an addition appears in a young family. And this is also a very powerful test. The husband does not want to understand that the woman he loves is now completely absorbed not by him, but by the child. And so you want affection and warmth, and besides, all these diapers, children's cries, routine ... And here it is - treason.

The woman, having barely managed to get out of postpartum depression , is faced with her husband's spree. How to cope with her during this period. Of course, it is difficult, but here, as they say, as far as she has enough wisdom and patience.

7-9th year of marriage. Everything seems to have settled down, work, income, children are slowly growing. And what? Boring, hopeless, monotonous, etc. And the soul asks for something bright, but, apparently, all this is bright somewhere outside of its own family. A woman during this period is restrained: after all, children need a father, they must somehow hold on. A man, on the other hand, hits entirely on work (well, tired of home life), or to the other extreme - to spree.

14-16th year of marriage . As a rule, by this time the children have already grown up, they are trying to live their own lives: they are no longer interested in being with their parents. What about parents? During this time, they have already lost the habit of mutual communication, they were mainly united by common concerns about children, and now something is missing. As if some kind of emptiness, vacuum. In addition, husband and wife were pretty fed up with each other. It was during this period that the wife often initiates a divorce, because she considers herself self-sufficient and the husband seems to have lost his true value.

New goals

Well, the older, the more each of the spouses thinks about the meaning of life. Women, as a rule, devote themselves to their grandchildren, and men, in order to prove to themselves their own masculine worth, get themselves a young mistress, or even a wife, in order to compensate for the inferiority complex that is brewing inside. To create a kind of illusory image of a vape, they say, there is still gunpowder ...

PS It is no coincidence that marriage is considered a test of strength and a great mental work for two close people. For those who have passed the test, new horizons open up. And if you don't pass, you should learn from your mistakes. You can, of course, step on and step on the same rake, only when in all this chaos you feel like a happy person ... Appreciate what you have.