Have you become a wife? Congratulations! With the new status, you may already have the feeling that married life is not going quite the way you imagined. You thought that the husband would help here, be in time there, but he is in no hurry to do either this or that. And now what i can do? Engage in raising your husband until things go too far and you begin to play by his rules. Pay attention to those couples who have been living together for a long time, if the wife is unhappy with something, she just continues to grumble, but she can no longer do anything. You still have a chance to mold the ideal.

Where to start raising a husband

Start with yourself. You'll have to learn how to cook deliciously if you still don't know how to do it. For what? Everything is very simple: a well-fed man is a willing man for everything. If you want to get a positive answer from him, feed him properly. And as soon as he exhales with pleasure after a delicious dinner, hurry to voice your request.

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learn to negotiate with him. For example, you need him to go to theaters or cinema with you, visit his mother, go shopping ... Agree on mutually beneficial cooperation: you don’t mind if he goes fishing on Sundays, for example, but for this he will be on Saturdays take you to the mall, and on Tuesday and Thursday - to visit your mother, but on the other days you can meet with friends or realize something else. The point is that a husband's greatest passion is his weakness. You have to use it for your own purposes.

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if he did something good. Cooked soup, say that you have never eaten such a delicious one. You will regularly admire, he will start pampering you with set meals. A praised man is ready to move mountains - this is a pattern.

If he does not show you signs of attention: he does not give gifts, flowers, sweets and other things, tell him directly how you want him to pamper you with something. Men need to be given specific instructions, they themselves will not guess: this is how the male mind works. Yes, raising a husband is not easy, especially if he is stingy, unemotional, silent or grumbling, but you can always find a way. As a rule, your kind smile and affectionate treatment, which, as you know, are pleasant even for a cat, work.

Doesn't help around the house, act like you can't handle it. Let's say they started washing the floor, ask: "Darling, please bring a bucket of water, otherwise my stomach hurts." Ask periodically for help, gradually he will get used to the fact that you need something all the time. The ideal option is to share household chores.

 And you will take all the work on yourself, so he will quickly get used to the fact that all household chores hang on you. Do you need it? Carry the whole house?

Stand up for your right to privacy. If you want to lie alone in the bathroom, then this is your right. Affectionately, casually hint that you sometimes need to rest like this, he will gladly agree to help you with his non-intervention.

Learn to pretend that your husband has decided everything so that it is like this. In fact, many husbands think that they are in charge of everything in the house, while they do it at the suggestion of their wife. For example, you decide to buy a new closet, but the views do not match. Well, tell him how wonderfully his instrument will fit in this particular model, while the one he has chosen is not very roomy. Taking out his pieces of iron once again, he will think how convenient they are here, and it’s good that he decided to take this particular model. But you made the decision.

So, slowly, somewhere with a beautiful word, somewhere with logical reasoning, you will raise your husband the way you need. Maybe henpecked husband is not the key word here, but something like this should turn out. The main thing is not to delay, otherwise the habit of playing without rules will very quickly be taken by him as the basis of your marital relationship.