It is not uncommon for a family to have an elderly or sick relative. As they say, no one is safe. But sometimes living next to such a person becomes not only difficult, but even unbearable. Because he tries to attract all the attention to himself. Here is an example: a middle-aged woman lives with her mother of retirement age. Well, it so happened that there are two of them in the family. Mom gave birth to a daughter late and now wants her to spend as much time with her as possible. Moreover, she fulfilled her whims, as you know, old people have requests like small children.

And what to do, it seems that I want to arrange my personal life, and here is my mother, to whom, of course, a woman feels her daughter's duty, but on the other hand, I would like to live for myself, because you are still young, you can still meet a man . But it turns out that you don’t have time to come to work, as your mother already calls, asks what time to wait at home and gives instructions on what to buy and asks you not to linger.

If you have a similar situation, then probably advice on how to behave with such a person will help you. First, it must be borne in mind that sick people often become energy vampires, that is, constantly grumbling and thereby attracting attention to themselves, they feed on your energy. As soon as you take care of them, they get their portion of the energy charge. But the most interesting thing is that your attention is not enough, they need more and more to such an extent that your whole life turns into only pleasing this loved one. At times you can't say no because you're afraid of hurting him.

But you must understand that devoting all your time to someone else (not yourself) is wrong. To do this, you need to learn to refuse. It is clear that it is difficult to maintain psychological balance in such situations, but still try to be firm. Just say that today you will not return home until eight in the evening (without further explanation). Do not allow yourself to fall for emotional tricks: tears and other reproaches. Your intransigence will still force a sick relative to take it for granted. In such cases, there is no need to argue, because your bickering will only lead to an emotional breakdown. Face the fact and do it your way.

When you feel like you can't handle your emotions, use the good old advice - leave the room or go for a walk, in general, get away from contact. Your ability to refuse will only strengthen your own position in life. Over time, a relative will stop pestering you with their requests. In the end, everyone has the right to privacy, and if your loved one does not understand this, then you need to be adamant in your decisions. Otherwise, you will be a constant source of nourishment. After all, sick people need the energy of healthy people, so they provoke conflict situations .

A vivid example: a person has a cardiovascular pathology. Such people are extremely irritable. Therefore, instead of proving something to your neighbor, try to better organize a visit to the doctor.

In a word, do not become victims of energy vampirism, do not succumb to provocations. Pay enough attention so that you have time for personal matters. Live by your own rules.