What kind of "beast" is this - a midlife crisis. However, the average age is also a relative value, everyone has their own idea of ​​it. But in general, we can say that this "uninvited" guest can appear both at 25 and at 35 years old. And to someone he does not come at all. But this is mostly for those who live by inertia and do not have time to think about where life is going and whether it goes at all, or maybe it passes by at all.

Thoughts

If the moment has come to rethink everything that happened to you, then you have entered a new life streak. This is normal when a person begins to analyze what he managed to achieve in a certain period of time. After all, while he was under parental care, everything seemed so funny, cloudless. Endless student parties, constant change of partner. Housing ... it doesn’t matter if it was, there was enough hostel. And then this period somehow began to dissipate by itself, many started families, and it was no longer so interesting to hang out and waste time aimlessly. Because it goes away irrevocably, but where?.. A good question, perhaps nowhere.

Other values

The fact is that initially society imposes its values ​​on each of us: the more money you have, the more significant and respected you are, which means that the first goal is to get a profession that will bring a stable and decent income . Expensive things are an indicator of status, you should definitely buy a car , preferably an executive class. An apartment - well, that goes without saying, without an apartment you are not a resident of a metropolis. And so on. Basically, the alignment goes to the material side. Everything is right, a person should live with dignity, but in the pursuit of only material values, the soul becomes poorer, languishes, there is no joy from life. Satisfaction sets in and, as a result, disappointment.

Although there are people who, on the contrary, do not have satiety, they still have hunger from the same life failure. A quarter of my life has been lived, there is a good profession, there is no family. There is a family - there is no profession. There is both – there is no self-realization. But it is self-realization that brings satisfaction to a person. Unfortunately, not everyone manages to get on their way at the very beginning and follow it, regardless of the protest of their parents, the ridicule of classmates, and in general any extraneous opinions. Meanwhile, finding your way is very important. Because no highly paid job will bring pleasure if it is unloved .

moment of truth

And one day the moment comes when a person says to himself: “Stop! So much time has passed, what have I achieved in this life, what can I rightly be proud of? Did I want exactly what I have at the moment? And more often than not, something inside tells you that most of what you have acquired is not what you might want. It’s just that when it all started, it wasn’t even thought that such and such actions would lead to this, but these harmless pranks would bring their bitter fruits. Most likely, due to their youth, many simply do not think where they are moving, and what all this will lead to. They just float along the river of life, wherever they take it, and then it turns out that they didn’t want to go there. The question arises: did you want to at all? The one who knows what he wants, achieves his goal at all costs. But the result obtained is the fruit of painstaking work on yourself, on your dream.

Those who are constantly improving, discovering new sides in themselves, setting new goals for themselves - they have no time to think about the crisis. For such a person there are no problems - there are tasks that require a special approach and non-trivial solutions. That's when life becomes interesting, then you get satisfaction and drive from it.

Therefore, if you still think about where you are today, it means that you are looking for, you feel that you have not yet fully revealed your potential. Perhaps you need a push, you need an example or a teacher. Search, and you will always find a lot of examples when people began to reveal their capabilities in a later period of life. The main thing is to understand that not everything has been done yet, or rather, nothing of what could be. Well, do it! All in your hands!