Oh those critics! From their "assessment" sometimes the mood falls just momentarily. Most people perceive criticism in their address painfully, and as a rule, the response is the same: hurt as much as possible, pinch the pride of the offender. Well, word for word...

But criticism is different. One must be able to distinguish fair criticism from ordinary causticity. If the boss tells you that “here you are wrong, that’s why and that’s why” (that is, he substantiates his remark), and he does it in a calm tone, then most likely your pride will remain unaffected. You can really see where you went wrong. It is possible that the criticism is absolutely fair. By the way, the ability to admit your mistakes is worthy of praise.

Criticism

However, often some employees or employees specifically strive to hurt you, and knowing that it will be unpleasant for you to hear this. These include ordinary energy vampires. Know that if you give them the response they expect, then they won over you and will be happy about it. Try to remain neutral, think at such a moment about what the goal of your offender is, do not give in to emotions. And you will see that gradually the caustic employee will stop pestering you and will find a new “victim”.

Moreover, always keep in mind that when you hear criticism addressed to you, then the censure is not addressed to you personally, but to your actions and deeds - these are completely different things. No one can encroach on your inner "I". Because it is available only to you.

To reflect the onslaught of the critic, make small adjustments to his wording. For example, if the harassing party says: “You ruined all our work!” correct her: "Today, but not every time" or something like that. Everyone has the right to make a mistake, but this does not mean that a person constantly does everything wrong. And the goal of the critic is to unbalance you, pointing out that you are allegedly always wrong and do everything wrong. Well, correct him, let him be struck by your cold-blooded understanding of the essence.

One way to respond to criticism is indifference. If you pretend that you absolutely do not care what this person is trying to say or prove here, he himself will be uncomfortable that all his censures are just stirring the air.

Finally, you can discourage the critic by asking, “What exactly do you want?” At a minimum, he does not expect such a situation, therefore, after uttering or shouting out general phrases, he will have nothing to cover.

You do not have to love absolutely all people , but sometimes it is useful to develop a style for yourself to communicate with such bores. A protective shell won't hurt.