According to statistics, about 70% of people who successfully make a career are bachelors. Well, you can understand that the higher the post, the higher the responsibility and the less time left for personal life. But are the leaders, lonely in personal terms, so happy? Remember at least the heroine from the film "Office Romance" Lyudmila Prokofievna. Would she spend so much time at work if she had a husband and children? Family or career? What to choose? Undoubtedly, a family is needed, it gives a person invaluable support, unless, of course, all its members are not against the ascent of a mother or father, husband or wife up the career ladder.

Choose: either family or career

When the question is put so categorically, a wise approach is indispensable. If the ultimatum is set by the husband, then you need to understand why he is not happy and explain it to him.

Realizing your potential at work is just as important as on the family front. Perhaps a new post takes much more time than usual, and households have to see mom and wife tired and only late in the evening, so late that the child is already sleeping at this time. Of course, not every husband is able to withstand this. Therefore, this categorical phrase: “either family or work” expresses more the cry of the soul. You get tired of working, and he gets tired of being alone, managing your children in your absence.

The problem can always be resolved if both sides agree to listen to each other and find a compromise. Yes, the wife has to stay late, but then she earns the lion's share, due to which the whole family lives. Of course, it is impossible to live in such a tense regime all the time. Therefore, you need to find a middle ground: for example, while an object or project is being handed over at work, everyone is patient and waiting. But then, mother and wife compensate for the time spent in excess on solving work issues with their attention to loved ones.

Claim or reason for divorce

It also happens that a career becomes just an excuse to break off relations, if they were already hanging by a thread. For example, between a husband and wife, a "chill ran" for a long time. The general life still somehow held back the final break, but when the wife began to appear very rarely at home, a very good reason was found to end all relations.

When energy has to be directed to different spheres, none of them receives one hundred percent. And there, to which due attention has not been paid, “winter” is coming at all. That's why office romances : no one is waiting for a person at home (well, almost no one), and at work there are common interests that bring like-minded people of the opposite sex together.

Jealousy or healthy rivalry

Sometimes male pride is undermined by the fact that the wife is making progress, but somehow he doesn’t add up, he can’t move on. Therefore, in order to somehow slow down the triumph of his wife, the husband begins to reproach her, to sort things out. In general, in every possible way to impede the further growth of her career. The selfish spouse at times uses all the same methods, that is, he poses the question point-blank, demands a choice.

If he does not want to support you in your own successes, then he does not have as much respect for you as real close people do. As the saying goes, if he loves, he will go forward. But this does not mean that you will put him before the fact that you are choosing a job, period. As two loving people, you can agree.

It often happens that both spouses are equally busy at work. Then they have a healthy competitive spirit. They compete as partners and this gives them even more incentive to grow.

Harmony must be

Of course, work should not become an altar. In a harmoniously developing person, all sides are at their best, mind you, not to the detriment of others. Therefore, aerobatics, when a woman manages to be both a leader, and a wife, and a mother. So she gets even more satisfaction.

Life is multifaceted and one must see pleasure in all its manifestations, only then can a person feel truly happy .