Relationship with mother-in-law

Whatever one may say, but along with your husband, a “second mother” appears in your life, who does not always seek to find a common language with you, rather, on the contrary, annoys her with her nit-picking, and thereby sows discord between her son and you. Although the opposite also happens. Moreover, there are enough good mothers-in-law too. Basically, they are wise women who have seen a lot in this life and understand that your life is your life, and there is no need to interfere in it. Unless to remind myself sometimes (in convenient cases).

"Mom, we love you (at a distance)"

It has long been known that love at a distance is the best way to avoid conflicts . In addition, two mistresses in the same kitchen do not get along. Therefore, if you still live with your parents, it is better to resolve this issue as soon as possible. A rented apartment may not help save money in the family budget , but what good will it do for maintaining your relationship with your husband. After all, a mother is a dear person to her son. To go against her means to go against himself, the same can be said about relations with his wife. Therefore, it is important that your husband does not rush between two fires. And then, as they say, for two hares ...

Diplomacy is the key to friendship

Nobody tells you to love a grumpy mother-in-law, who only does what she climbs into your relationship with your husband and strives to humiliate you, or give you a “strong” word (not to mention tedious instructions and moralizing). To communicate with such a person, learn a few useful rules:

Never argue to prove you're right. Your inexorable “no, we won’t do that” will not lead to anything good. Better pretend to agree with her statement, but apply it a little later. For example, the mother-in-law asks you to come to her, supposedly there is some housework. And you are going to the cinema at this time. Well, assure her that you will definitely visit her, but tomorrow. Thus, you will not refuse her and remain at your own. Don't criticize your husband in front of your mother-in-law. After all, she is his mother, and any of your attacks towards her son can be perceived as her own insult. If you have kids of your own, you'll understand what I'm talking about. It happens that the mother-in-law comes to visit you without warning, starts cleaning, arranges everything the way she wants to see, climbs into your things. If this happens, talk to your husband. He should be able to successfully negotiate with his mother: he knows the features of her character. Let him somehow hint that you are no longer small children, you have your own family, your own tastes and preferences. And he will do it again delicately. Mom's advice, of course, is good, but I would like to do a little in my own way. Use "mother's" weaknesses. Try to find a common language with the mother-in-law in the absence of her husband. As they say, “chirp” a little about your own, about women, gossip a little. Perhaps you will be able to find an understanding of common issues, or at least you will identify topics for yourself that will be win-win in order to agree.