Often, after the euphoria associated with the birth of a daughter or son, a man is in no hurry to participate in the process of communicating with a child, and this happens for various reasons. But be that as it may, the wife is always offended why, with a living father, the child does not receive male attention, dad practically does not notice when the first tooth came out, what the first steps were, and generally does not take care of the child even in his free time. Let's try to understand the reasons for paternal indifference.

Firstly, a newly-made father may have a fear of a tiny creature: how and for what to take him, suddenly he will cry or, even worse, write. It’s better to watch what is happening from the outside from sin. Secondly, some believe that while the baby does not understand anything, the wife should play the main role in caring for him, because nature is arranged in such a way that a woman always knows what a child needs, how to manage it, and so on. Thirdly, a man simply may not have enough time due to the fact that he rarely appears at home, earning serious money. And when he comes home, he simply wants to relax and not get tired of playing with the baby.

But this is just the tip of the iceberg, the real problems tend to lie deeper than apparent indifference. The reasons can be very different. For example, the spouse turned out to be really not ready for the appearance of a child. He may not even have heard from others how much time is spent on children. However, very quickly it begins to understand when the wife gives all her attention only to the baby for days and nights. In this case, the usual jealousy takes place.

A way out in this situation: it is advisable for a wife who is immersed in caring for a child to show a tender attitude towards her husband so that he does not feel rejected and forgotten. Only if his wife's attention returns, will he stop thinking that only her newborn child exists for her. Therefore, he will not be angry with his offspring and, most likely, will want to tinker with him.

Why does the husband not want to play with the children

Also a good question. It seems that the children have already grown up, they know how to speak and show interest in their father, and he is limited only by a slap or grumbling, so that he “does not go there” and “does not take it.”

In this situation, you need to look at the rules of conduct in the family, from which the husband himself came out. If it was not customary in their family for dad to devote time to raising children, then most likely this model was simply inherited.

Also, a man does not want to take part in the lives of children whom he did not want and did not plan. Say, if a woman asked herself such happiness, then let her disentangle herself.

Here, the mother should not harbor illusions that at some point he will come to his senses and yet the paternal instinct will turn on. If a man did not want a child, then he is unlikely to be happy to be involved in the upbringing process. One piece of advice: as soon as you give birth to a child for yourself, do not require his biological father to actively participate in raising the offspring.

However, not everything is so hopeless if the father is an ordinary slob. In this case, you can resort to a little trick, persuading dad to make a little face, play hide and seek, just take a walk with the baby. Very often children like father's games (since mother's ideas are boring and not so reckless), and they do not hide their great pleasure from this process. Therefore, a little son or daughter quickly manages to conquer his own dad with children's laughter, genuine interest and love. From such sincerity, the heart of an indifferent father will instantly thaw, and he will again want to repeat the experience of communication. And then he will even be proud of how his heir is tied to him.