In each couple, life priorities are set according to the ideas of both parties about living together. However, the psychology of premarital relations is such that young people (due to the lack of experience of living together) cannot imagine in detail the further development of relations. Very often, the period of courtship and meetings has nothing to do with family affairs.

The girl and the boy simply enjoy the joys of being: they go to the cinema, communicate with friends, make signs of attention to each other. To a greater extent, this refers to the category of entertainment. If they do not discuss how their responsibilities and roles will be distributed after the wedding, what important goals they will have to achieve, then such a marriage is more likely to fall apart due to lack of a solid ideological basis.

For many couples, the premarital period is like exploiting each other for emotional and carnal satisfaction. Unfortunately, in order to create a family, there is little sporting interest and a desire to possess others, you also need a desire for joint development, moving forward.

Criteria for choosing a life partner

It is desirable that your chosen one has the same social level as you. If you are approximately at the same social level, then your requests will coincide on many items of the family budget . It is very important to understand the relationship between spouses, which, as a rule, is formed on a clear parental example. Each person has his own vision of the issue of the appearance and upbringing of children, the distribution of responsibilities in the family. All this is very important. False orientations or mismatched values ​​regarding marriage life will lead to discord or severing of ties between two people. It also matters how young people are ready to give each other the opportunity to develop in the sense of self-realization and whether they are determined to support their partner. If in this sense their ideas do not coincide, then everyone runs the risk of refusing or losing the implementation of their projects. It is equally important that young people cast aside their "masks", that is, they begin to behave in a natural way, so to speak, get used to each other. This takes the average couple one and a half to two years. If, after this period, one is still not ready to enter into a marriage union, then continuation for both does not make sense. On the other hand, if both do not mind continuing to spend their precious time in the company of the other, why not.

The optimal age for marriage is determined by the psychological readiness and maturity of a particular person. In women, this happens closer to twenty-five years, while men, as a rule, get on their feet and begin to think about a family by about thirty years.