The very meaning of the word upbringing is interpreted by some parents as a direction to the true path, instilling in the child the right attitudes, values ​​and a certain way of thinking. But in fact, children already adopt the manner of communication, attitude to the world around them from their parents without much effort on the part of the latter. Because all kids imitate adults and mirror the atmosphere in which they are constantly. sort things out all the time , then where does the child get the desire to resolve situations with other children peacefully.

As for morality, then, perhaps, parents should not impose their position on the child. After all, they look at the world through the prism of their life experience, which prevents them from objectively assessing any situation. And through the mouth of a baby, by the way, the truth speaks. For the simple reason that children are not yet burdened with patterns and labels that society "hang" on everyone and everything.

Psychologists say that it is necessary to educate a child even before his birth. And when the baby was born, all the best that parents can do for him is to help develop the inclinations and talents inherent in nature. Let the child perceive this world from scratch, so he will have more opportunities to see different manifestations of the surrounding reality and express his inner vision.

The Japanese allow children a lot, if not everything. And in a way they are right. After all, there is no question of permissiveness here, but it means the opportunity to let the child commit an act and see its consequences. Just as a baby understands how dangerous a hot iron or tea can be when it burns them, he will feel how others treat him if he fights or is greedy. Everything is learned from personal experience, and what can be more valuable than it. Let the kid break the mug and he will understand why glass things cannot be dropped. Grabbing the cat by the tail, the little robber will get a scratch: next time he will remember this.

In a word, education should not be the imposition of any position or attitude, rather, it is help to the child and only in those situations when it is really needed. If the child cannot assemble the pyramid, he will ask for support if he sees fit. But if he persistently declares: "I myself" - it is better to let him do it himself, even if you are in a hurry. Because your help in such situations is a disservice. It's just that later, when a child, for example, gets dressed, he will always count on you, and all because your patience does not allow him to become independent. And when the child grows up, the parents express their dissatisfaction with the fact that he is so big, and all hopes for his mother. Didn't they themselves contribute to the development of this quality?

So, before educating, think about whether your position will be the imposition of your own experience and mistakes. Let the child go through life in his own way.