family at a distance

Every woman dreams that after getting married and giving birth to children, she and her husband will live and raise children together, rejoice in their achievements, and experience all the hardships together. Several years pass and the husband decides that he needs to earn extra money in another city. He persuades his wife that it is necessary to raise children, and an extra penny will not hurt the family. The shift method is convenient and it will be nearby, as before, and love at a distance only improves relations.

And now a year passes, another, third, and what is the result ... All the worries for raising children fall on the shoulders of the wife, children (especially small ones) tend to get sick often, household chores for washing and cleaning the house, and if the faucet is dripping or the lock broke in the door ... Sometimes people want sudden intimacy. The feelings of the spouses begin to fade, despite the love vows - people simply begin to wean from each other. It seems as if life is passing by, the best years are missed. Often, women also tend to wind up scary pictures with the betrayal of a loved one, they are suspected of a wild life. Stress, worries, scandals, mistrust and it seems that family relationships are worn out, sometimes many people think about divorce.

The husband comes from a business trip, for ten days. And at home, children make noise, dad loses his authority in front of them, he is already perceived more as a “bag of gifts” for the holiday, rather than as the head of the family whose mother becomes. Moreover, the wife pours out the accumulated problems, something needs to be fixed, take the children to the clinic, solve the problem at school and other worries. But he has already lost the habit of family worries, he wants to relax after a long business trip, take a nap for another hour in front of the TV. Beloved children require attention, interfere.

Such a gloomy picture emerges and is embodied in many. But in order not to drive yourself into depression, you need to reconsider the situation. There are several options for not driving yourself into a corner and maintaining family relationships:

1. Trust each other.
2. Communicate as often as possible - this is not a problem in our time.
3. Share with each other positive emotions, impressions of the past day.
4. If possible, then visit your husband with your children on weekends or holidays, for one change the situation.
5. Make surprises for each other.
6. Don't forget family holidays.
7. If there are grandparents, get them to help, they can take a walk with your guys or take them to visit, and you devote this time to yourself.
8. Communicate with friends, they will always support.
9. Find your passion.

According to psychologists, it is still impossible to live separately for a long time with a family. If a spouse works in another city for a long time, and then they reunite, then the spouses can understand that their life is already different, since everyone already has their own. Children during this time have grown up and parents as a whole are no longer perceived, by the way, the psyche of children is quite distorted in the perception of the concept of family.

They have become completely strangers, each with their own views, their own habits, which are very difficult to break. The daily presence of the second half in the house is annoying. The couple are trying to rebuild their relationship. And as a result, many families do not stand the test.

The family must build trusting relationships and raise children together in love. And if one of the spouses found a job in another city, then it is better if his family is still nearby, because you can move, even if for a while with the whole family. It is best not to test the strength of relationships far from each other, but to strengthen them while being close!