Although a person is not a machine, his brain is a kind of computer program. Since childhood, an individual actively and quickly gains experience in communicating with other people, with the outside world, accumulates knowledge about them and the interaction between them. In addition to completing the program, people learn to evaluate themselves, other people, and the events taking place around. They build judgments, draw conclusions, and far from always the information received and conclusions turn out to be pleasant. What complexes can prevent us from building new relationships?

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Scientists have proven that the most active filling of the psychological program is in childhood: up to five years old, the little man has already formed up to fifty percent of the emotional program. By the age of eight, he gets another thirty. Thus, at the age of eight, the psychological program of a person is already eighty percent full. By the age of eighteen, fifteen more are added, and the remaining five people get to the end of their lives. This program includes the whole complex of judgments and beliefs about oneself, about how other people perceive a person.

Children's complexes

As you can see, a person receives most of the life psychological experience in childhood. Since the world is presented as a blank sheet of paper for a child, it is important and interesting for him to quickly fill it with knowledge and skills. It is logical that almost the only source of information for the child will be the example of his parents. And not only what they consciously want to convey to their child is assimilated. The manner of mom and dad to communicate with each other, their behavior does not escape the eyes of a young man. The child sees the relationship between the people closest to him, and draws his own conclusions. If mom and dad often quarreled in front of the child, he may conclude that he must be good so as not to upset the people he loves, or that quarrels are stupid and ridiculous. It often happens that the father or mother is emotionally distant from the family, does not pay attention to the child, or leaves altogether. Such situations leave an imprint on the life of a child. He thinks that he was not good enough, since his beloved dad or mommy leaves him. Or he may decide that there is no point in getting close to someone, because everyone you love will leave sooner or later.

Age complexes

With age, the experience of emotional relationships with other people accumulates, the psychological portrait of a person is finally completed, and it can interfere with building relationships with other people due to past unpleasant experiences or psychological trauma. It is very difficult to change the established beliefs about the outside world and human relationships. But sometimes, in order to be happy with your chosen one, you need to learn to think differently, take a different look at the situation, convince yourself that some views that have developed in the past were not entirely correct, erroneous, inspired by complexes or negative experiences. All this requires work on oneself, sometimes even the help of a specialist.

It is necessary to release those emotions and feelings that, for some reason, were hidden deep in the heart, preventing you from building an open and healthy relationship with your loved one. Having come to the conclusion that the complexes that originated in the past interfere with building a harmonious future, it's time to analyze the missed mistakes in relationships with other people, with a previous loved one. By allowing yourself to work on the mistakes, to imagine a possible competent solution to the conflict situation, you can avoid mistakes in real relationships.

New love

But the best way to survive the old wounds will only be the willingness to meet this new love, a new person. Acceptance of oneself, correction and liberation from the negative experience of the past will attract exactly the person with whom relations will be emotionally open and comfortable.