Jealousy is a corrosive feeling that gnaws at your soul every second, if it has already settled in your mind, then it is not easy to get rid of it. Even the slightest hint of flirting in your husband's relationship with other ladies pisses you off, and you are even scared to imagine what happens when you are not around.

The wife's suspicions about her husband's possible love relationship are no better than the situation when the cause of conflicts in the family is the husband's jealousy . The most interesting thing is that it is very difficult, almost unrealistic, to stop being jealous of your own free will. What then to do? It would be necessary to figure out what started a series of doubts about the fidelity of the spouse. Perhaps you were initially tuned in to the fact that all men are “their ..”, and you didn’t even really need a reason, just the knowledge of infidelity settled in the brain as a kind of axiom. Analyze where this feeling came from, and then draw a conclusion whether it is possible to eradicate jealousy in your case.

How to deal with jealousy

The first reason is psychological. Very often, a child who grew up in an incomplete family, deprived of the love of parents because of their attention to younger brothers or sisters, without parents, always looks for an alternative source of love, since the desire to be needed by someone is inherent in human nature. And when suddenly there is a soulmate, somewhere on the subconscious the “red button” is triggered, there is a fear that this newly acquired feeling of being needed by someone can be lost, spilled over trifles, it starts to disturb.

If you know that a similar situation takes place in your life (you really lacked the attention of loved ones in childhood), then you should look at the situation in your current family more broadly, if the husband does not give reasons as such, why provoke conflicts or torture yourself doubts. You need to learn to trust your spouse and understand that, unfortunately, without trust, the family boat will not sail far.

The second reason for possible jealousy on the part of the wife is the profession of the spouse. Actors, successful businessmen, doctors are always surrounded by female colleagues, and the higher the authority of your spouse, the more women will admire him and want a relationship with him, and the higher the likelihood that at some point he will want not only a joint work, but also personal life with a woman, maybe much younger than you.

What is the cure

The “cure” in this case should be your work on yourself. If you doubt, it means that you are simply not sure of your own attractiveness, of your ability to keep your husband near you. And the first thing you need to pay attention to is how comfortable your husband feels next to you. If he always strives to go home - a good sign, but if you find your jealousy in the form of nit-picking and provoking conflicts, most likely he will get tired and find a safe haven in the company of some pleasant young lady.

Another point is your appearance. Married - do not forget to support images of a different self: a romantic Alyonushka, a seductive coquette, a femme fatale ... Remember, it is pleasant to look at a beautiful woman all the time. And so that the image does not become boring - change the color of your hair, hairstyle, makeup ... in general, somehow transform. Then the husband's attention will mostly go to you.

However, if you know that your spouse will not miss the opportunity to flirt, go to dinner with some colleague, constantly communicate with the ladies on the phone, think maybe you are married to the wrong person. It is unlikely that the womanizer’s nature can be corrected, so you must either accept him like that, or let him go in peace: you will exhaust yourself and him, and without achieving anything at all.

Conclusion: your jealousy either has a reason, or it doesn't. Try to objectively assess the situation and act according to the circumstances. It is clear that a good husband does not give a reason. But if you know that the degree of risk is high (your spouse can still have an affair with someone), then you have two main options: if you want to keep him to yourself, change urgently, find a weak spot in yourself (stop provoking scandals, get busy finally, their appearance); wait it out: any intrigues end, the only question is what, or talk to him, find out the degree of neglect of the problem. Than jealous, maybe it's better to let go? Everything is relative.